If there is one constant in life, it is failure.
Every plant, animal and species on this planet experiences failure more often than success. It’s a fact of nature. We all fail.
I’m no different.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from countless successful people, from athletes to actors to business women, it’s how we deal with failure that really counts.
What’s the best way to deal with failure? . . .
Not all medical professionals are apprehensive about penile exercising.
Some, like Dr. Richard Howard II, actually embrace it with open arms. He has been both a motivation and a lighting rod of support since I first talked to him nearly two years ago.
Dr. Howard wrote the introduction to Exercising the Penis and has one of the most motivational success stories I’ve ever heard. He lost over an inch with a topical cream that caused Peyronie’s and gained it all back and more (totaling over 3 inches gained in length and 2 inches in girth).
How does a doctor go against conventional wisdom and gain so much? I’ll let Howard tell you in his own words . . .
This is the final conclusion of Part 1, where Dr. Howard - who gained over 3 inches in length and 2 inches in girth with penile exercising (PE) - explained how he did it.
In this part, he talks about some of his keys to success, as well as PE becoming more out in the open.
You’ve been very successful in both PE and in life. What principles or secrets have you applied throughout both to get where you are?
With all goals in life, it’s never a 9 inning game. . .
Some myths are hard to kill (Photo: Friedman)
Most people either:
It’s understandable. Penile exercising is relatively new, and only recently has the Internet allowed it to flourish into an act that men can discuss freely. Like all new things, it takes time get out in the open.
But it’s slowly becoming more popular.
Last year, I did a poll of the top web sites related to penile exercising. The results suggested that over a million men have used exercises in an effort to make their penis bigger and harder. Even mainstream media is opening their minds. Recent books like Built for Sex talk about jelqing and related exercises in a fairly positive light (kudos to author Scott Hays).
Every once in a while, though, an urologist or sex expert still discredits the effects of penile exercises, claiming it’s “scientifically impossible.” We all make mistakes and there is a lot of misinformation in this world, so it’s easy to understand where the discrediting comes from.
Sometimes, however, I read something that leaves even me baffled.
One of these instances recently came when A. J. “Big Al” Alfaro sent me a link to a WebMD article about Dr. Sheldon Marks take on penis enlargement. In it, Marks, a urologist of 20 years and a male, said . . .
If you’re like me and most other men, you are prone to get stressed about the little things.
By nature, men tend to worry, argue and fret about things that really don’t matter in the scheme of it all. For many of us, that includes things that pertain to the bedroom. In fact, experts estimate that the majority of sexual problems for men — especially younger men – are psychological.
Meaning, our sexual problems often occur because we are thinking about doomsday bedroom scenarios too much.
I recently had a man contact me about a minor mishap with premature ejaculation that turned into a full-blow problem. It started with a one-time occurrence that led to him constantly worrying about it happening again. Sure enough, it did. Then again. And again.
Well, well - what do we have here? (Photo: Paul Gibson)
I had the largest grin on my face.
I put down the ruler and marked down 4/10 of an inch next to the “length added” column and 1/10 next to “girth added” — bringing the total gain to two inches in length and one inch in girth.
I felt like a new man. Hell, I had become a new man. It was at that point that I knew the book, which would eventually become Exercising the Penis, needed to be written.
The increase of my penis size was only half of it. The other half came in the form of consistent rock-hard erections, a boost in confidence, an increase in self-awareness, and — most importantly — an acceptance of who I am.
All of this was possible with a form of exercising that many experts would say is self-delusional. Or just down right crazy. On more than one occasion, I secretly wondered if they were right. Most of the time now, however, I wonder why the hell doesn’t the world know about this?
Why is it that we men put such an emphasis on our most prized organ? I’ve contemplated this question for many years, and I’m still not so sure. Perhaps it’s because sex, despite our social inhibitions to talk about the topic, is important in today’s society. Perhaps it’s because, as Dr. Lamm says, the penis is man’s gateway to virility, to procreating and to pleasure.
Or maybe it’s much simpler. Perhaps it’s as simple as we just want to be able to please our partners — and we want to please them well and often.
I haven’t always been a pleaser, and for a while I wasn’t even confident in the bedroom. In fact, the beginning of the journey that led to my book started with a question. I didn’t ask it — she did.
“Is it in?”
Up until that point, I thought the old idiom was never used outside the realm of Cosmo magazine, or as stand-up comedian’s joke.
I would have thought she was joking– my heart sunk on the hope that she was — if her facial expression didn’t convey the harsh truth that she really didn’t feel anything. On hindsight, it was my weak erections that led to the lack of friction.
Either way, the damage had been done. She and I both blamed my less-than-average sized manhood, and this was the largest reason among many that caused me to eventually exercise my penis in an attempt to make it bigger.
From Hope to a Conviction
Through the pint-sized hope that I had in thinking I could change my penis, I searched for an answer. It came in the form of penile exercising, and my hope led to belief.
After I gained an inch and dramatically improved my erection quality, belief led to certainty. Eventually, certainty led to wonder — a wonder of how so few men know about the benefits of using these exercises.
Wonder led to a conviction to get it out in the open. A conviction that despite all the odds stacked me — my young age, my lack of medical degree, and no noteworthy connections — seems more plausible with every step taken.
A conviction that grows every time a man approaches me and tells me how penile exercising made a difference in his life.
A conviction that is hard to forget when I remember a 2007 poll I did on Thunder’s Place, in which roughly 10 percent of the men said they had considered killing themselves with the sole reason being their penis size.
Men Care More than Women
The idea that a man would kill himself over his penis size is as ludicrous as it is unfortunate. But it is just one example of how much emphasis our society, especially our fellow men, place on the penis.
The fact is, penis size matters to men more than it does to women. Based on my countless discussions with men and women on the topic, I would estimate only 1 out of every 5 women care about penis size as much as we men do.
It’s hard for a man to not to think about his size when he hears negatives comments like the ones I’ve received; when he sees unrealistic proportions of what is average in pornography; and when he notices the media continually blasting “bigger is better” in TV series like Sex and the City.
The good news is that most men don’t need a bigger penis. A large majority of men just need to know they have the ability to change their penis. They need to have control of the organ that is placed under the microscope each time they have sex.
For many men, penile exercising gives them that control.
How is it Possible?
How does the penis grow bigger and harder?
It’s really not hard to imagine when you know the facts. The truth, at least the truth in this article and in countless others, is that the penis is half smooth muscle. Just as exercising your biceps causes your arms to grow bigger and harder, exercising the smooth muscle in your penis causes it to grow bigger and harder.
The process of penile exercising is very similar to exercising any other muscle (although I suggest avoid trying to curl any weight with little guy). It takes time, the right type of exercising, and a proper amount of rest to see results.
Either way, you should ignore most of the spam email in your inbox that claims you can add “5 inches in 5 weeks.” That’s not going to happen.
The best part of it all? You won’t need to gain that. Most men spend less than six months penile exercising, gain an inch or less, and walk away much happier and more confident than they were before. Not necessarily confident because they have a huge penis (most men who penile exercise don’t build “mega cocks”). Confident because they have that basic male need — a sense of control.
I understand much of what I talk about on this blog and in my book may seem at odds with mainstream thinking. Like all new and controversial topics, that’s expected.
But if you resolve to test the concepts and look at the facts, you’ll see how deep the rabbit hole goes — just like I did.
"This
is a first of its kind. It's time that men's issues joined with women's!"
-Deby L. Cassill, Ph.D., USF Professor in Biology
