(Think you have it bad?)

If there is one constant in life, it is failure.

Every plant, animal and species on this planet experiences failure more often than success. It’s a fact of nature. We all fail.

I’m no different.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from countless successful people, from athletes to actors to business women, it’s how we deal with failure that really counts.

What’s the best way to deal with failure? . . .

1. Get back up

Listen to Nick Vujicic. You have to face failure. Brush your shoulders off and get back up. What matters is not how hard or how long our journey is, it’s how we finish.

2. Ask “why?”

Albert Einstein may or may not have been a genius but he sure did have a knack for finding the truth, such as when he quipped, “The true definition of insanity is repeating the same action, over and over, hoping for a different result.”

To make a change, you have to ask yourself, “Why am I failing?” If, for instance, your goal is to accurately throw a football 50 yards and you’re only throwing it 30 yards, you may be failing in one of two key areas: strength or technique.

If you’re failing in strength, you know you have to hit the gym if you want to change. If you’re failing technique, you know you have to practice more.

No matter what you’re trying to improve in — say public speaking, building a business, and even penile exercising — the key ingredient to transforming your failure into a success is asking “why am I failing?”

3. Use the failure

Generally speaking, I think men who frequently exercise — whether it’s their penis, their brains, or their bodies — deal with failure different than others.

We focus on failure. We tend to allow it to become our essence of existence, using it to learn more and to improve. We want to become better, often at everything we do. And we will. So long as we get back up . . . and then ask “why did we fall in the first place?”